I believe that if you are a pick up artist or a ladies man or has any label about being good in getting girls, you are individually isolated in this world governed by society rules. Your beliefs, mindsets, principles are on the other side of the coin and those anti-kryptonites take you to the top.

But being in a relationship, is not about being at the top or above the opposite sex, it's about having an equal value with your partner. Since you are of a high value person, the tendency is that you always have a higher value than your partner no matter how rich or beautiful she is.

What happens when you keep that level is that you gain pride while she loses her confidence.

One example could be that you are a busy person. You always show her that you aren't available all the time. And yes according to some books it's right! But actually it's wrong. We are made to give women happiness, not to play with their feelings. What happens next is that you gain pride while she is chasing you and her life is being miserable about expecting you to be there for her.

A true pick up artist knows the meaning of commitment. I may be wrong but here are some of the wrong mindset about maintaining a relationship that I realized:

1. I have a higher value than her.
- What are you planning to do? Control the relationship? Lead the relationship? Then you are not trying to create a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship but rather a master-servant one.

2. I won't take away my pride it's. I'm an alphamale!
-Too much pride will not kill you, but will kill your relationship. Try eating your pride for breakfast. Put away your pride even just between you and your partner. Think and act like both of you have committed the mistake.

3. I can do whatever I want, this is my life!
- I once defended myself that I entered the relationship not to limit ourselves but to share what each other do. It's true, but you can't erase the fact that there are some things or habits in your life that you really need to eliminate in order to maintain the relationship. If you don't want to erase all then don't commit yourself.

4. I won't chase her. I don't need an emotional woman.
- Then what do you need? All women are emotional, inside and out. I mean some maybe hiding it, but if you do really love her then you will have to understand her. If she hates you, love her more. If she really doesn't want to continue anymore and you gave your best, it's

not your fault anymore. Humans want what they can't get. So after going for her, I'm sure she will chase you too.

*Make sure that while chasing her, you still don't act super needy, you still do attraction, your game.

5. "Next!" Mindset.
- Thinking that you can always get another girl when she's gone. Yes You know it. Yes You know your skills. But what's the sense? It will just improve your pride/ego. You are with your dream girl right now. Why not just maintain it?

6. I'm not afraid to lose her!
- Be afraid, but don't show it ALWAYS. What I mean is that, you must show her that you don't want to lose her that you do everything for her. But avoid saying that "I don't want to lose you." In that case your actions will still remain a mystery for the opposite sex. Know her value and know the value of the relationship.

7. Push and push and push her anyway she will always like you
- And yes, since you are of a high value, she will still like you. But what's your point of doing it? To feel that your superior? How about the girl and her feelings? A win-lose situation? So make sure when you push, you always pull.

8. Forget that you are a PUA, show off your true self.
- This is a big no no in a relationship. Remember that she have liked you for your great tactics, and her first impression about you is that you are an alpha-male or a superman. To keep her attraction, you must also keep what you have shown to her from the start. I'm not saying that you can't be your true self. What I mean is be at your best self.

Again, I may be wrong in some of these mindsets but well these are my own realizations. This might either help you or ruin your current relationship. Be a learner. Forget every past, learn from it, use it to your present and have an everlasting valentine. But remember do not just chase, do attraction!